Monday, January 9, 2012
The epitomy of playing through the pain.
When you are a mom there are no time outs or breaks. There is no one to turn the reigns over to and take a break. I mean yea, Chris, is there and if I really couldn't do something I was supposed to do he would cover for me. The thing of it is, is that when I told Maddie I would take her to the park, she takes it literally. At that point, there is no going back. No Substitutions, No Excuses. So what do I do when I feel like my head is going to pound off my shoulders? I take her to the park. Half and hour later, my head feels better and I just had a great time with my daughter. It's days like today that make your realize how precious this time is with our babies, that they won't always be small, and won't always want us around. No matter how much I complain about wanting Chris to do more or needing time to myself. I wouldn't want to give up any of the time I have with Maddie because those are the times I am making memories. I would choose laughing and playing with her at the park any day over taking a nap or doing laundry. Sometimes we just need perspective.
Wednesday, January 4, 2012
Waste.Of.Time.
Well yesterday was a bust. We had a meeting with the Administrator of Atrium Y and the Director of the Preschool and nothing was accomplished. Chris and I were with them for an hour and twenty minutes of talking in circles. Everything we said they had a rebuttal for, every concern we rose they had a defense for, and when we said we thought they should do more; they said that maybe we should take Maddie somewhere else. Is this what happens when you worry about the safety of your children?
The entire situation started when Maddie was bitten and they failed to notify us, twice. I asked the teachers what was being done in the classroom to discourage the children from biting and all she told me was that they were working with the family of the child(ren). They tell me that addressing biting to the kids only increases the bites because it draws attention to biting. So I guess there is no room in a preschool setting for children's books, movies, and songs about not biting or hurting your friends. If I hear the words psycho-social development one more time I might scream.
That was their rebuttal for everything. The kids that are biting have not developed empathy and they are working on this whole new curriculum to help develop the psycho-social awareness in children. She pretty much told me the only reason that Mad doesn't bite is because she is more mature than the other kids in her class. The funny thing is that there are two kids biting out of twenty and they are defending those kids instead of protecting the others. I hope that this is not what we have to look forward to in the coming years. I know that every kid has to be a winner, and that all kids are equal, and no one is better than anyone else, and all the crap... but that is not real life.
I think our children need to be well balanced. If that means that Maddie is disappointed when she looses a soccer game, does not get picked to be the lead in the play, or has to be called out when she does something wrong then I think that needs to happen. God forbid we tell our kids that they are doing something wrong or that they need to work on something more or harder so that they will thrive more later in life.
Are we moving Maddie's preschool? Not today. In the future? That depends on how this play out in the next few weeks. Why should Maddie's world be turned upside down because another kid can't keep their chompers off of her. Is it more traumatic for her to have her whole routine changed or getting bitten again?
I guess we will have to see what happens...hopefully not more of the same.
The entire situation started when Maddie was bitten and they failed to notify us, twice. I asked the teachers what was being done in the classroom to discourage the children from biting and all she told me was that they were working with the family of the child(ren). They tell me that addressing biting to the kids only increases the bites because it draws attention to biting. So I guess there is no room in a preschool setting for children's books, movies, and songs about not biting or hurting your friends. If I hear the words psycho-social development one more time I might scream.
That was their rebuttal for everything. The kids that are biting have not developed empathy and they are working on this whole new curriculum to help develop the psycho-social awareness in children. She pretty much told me the only reason that Mad doesn't bite is because she is more mature than the other kids in her class. The funny thing is that there are two kids biting out of twenty and they are defending those kids instead of protecting the others. I hope that this is not what we have to look forward to in the coming years. I know that every kid has to be a winner, and that all kids are equal, and no one is better than anyone else, and all the crap... but that is not real life.
I think our children need to be well balanced. If that means that Maddie is disappointed when she looses a soccer game, does not get picked to be the lead in the play, or has to be called out when she does something wrong then I think that needs to happen. God forbid we tell our kids that they are doing something wrong or that they need to work on something more or harder so that they will thrive more later in life.
Are we moving Maddie's preschool? Not today. In the future? That depends on how this play out in the next few weeks. Why should Maddie's world be turned upside down because another kid can't keep their chompers off of her. Is it more traumatic for her to have her whole routine changed or getting bitten again?
I guess we will have to see what happens...hopefully not more of the same.
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